The more intimate a connection becomes, whether physically or purely platonic, the more important trust becomes. As you reveal much more of yourself to another person, you grow to trust them to treat your openness with care. However, even in the tightest of relationships, our judgement can be confused by a variety of feelings, such as passion, love, or even an idealised conception of what a companionship or connection should be like. Because of this, it's important to thoroughly internalise the telltale symptoms of an unreliable individual so you can spot one in your presence, regardless of how tight the two of you have grown.
Even though it's not always simple to discern if someone is unhealthy to be with right away, over time, you may learn a lot about them based on their physical language, what they say, and overall vibe. If something looks "wrong," trust your instinct, whether it's with a potential date, a mystifying neighbour, or even a random stranger on the road.
They fail to admit their errors or wrongs
If someone doesn't express sorrow or take accountability for misbehaviour, it will be difficult to trust them. Even if they have wounded you, they can be fabricating their own version of events while ignoring you or what you have to say.
They Disregard Your Physical Limits
Consider it a major warning sign if someone continues to disregard your boundaries. Some instances include approaching you too closely (and then following if you move farther away), not accepting no as a response, or even seemingly innocent behaviours like teasing you after you've requested them to stop. Toxic people may do such behaviors to test you and see whether you're willing to go farther, while some people simply don't understand how to take a hint.
They frequently switch friends and social circles.
A warning sign should be raised if a person rarely appears to have more than one or two close friends and/or frequently switches groups in less than a year. This may be a sign that they struggle to keep the confidence of various groups of individuals.
Sudden plan cancellation
It's acceptable to cancel arrangements at the last minute if there are valid reasons, such as working the night shift or dealing with a family emergency . However, if they repeatedly cancel arrangements for strange reasons or if they consistently use the same justification, it's time to be sceptical about trusting them.
Their Mood Alters Rapidly
Keep a watch out for startling mood swings when engaging with people because narcissists frequently experience intense anger when things don't go their way. They have the ability to instantly change themselves and all of their nonverbal mannerisms.This may involve changing moods from being quite kind to being incredibly annoyed, and back again. Or they could change into a totally other "character" to acquire what they want. You may not even be aware of it until the individual has already lured you in because it can be so deceptive. So pay attention to how someone behaves when they are not successful. You might wish to avoid them if you witness them changing completely.
They appear to be concealing numerous "major" things.
Personal limits can be beneficial, but if a buddy or spouse seems to be keeping a significant portion of their life a mystery that it raises questions about their personality or motivations, there's a risk they're hiding something. Since transparency is another pillar of trust, it can be a red flag when someone absolutely hides their space, their cell, or the essential people in their life.
They lack trust towards others.
People who lack trust don't have faith in others. It seems sense that a person who has no qualms about violating their promise and undermining confidence would find it impossible to believe that others could be trustworthy. It's intriguing how profound and widespread their lack of confidence is. The worse their behaviour, the more one-sided and suspicious they are of everyone. They blame innocent people for acting in the same ways that they do. This infographic illustrates who you actually trust, such as the husband who blames his spouse for cheating because he does, or the manager who fears his employees will deceive him because he is defrauding the company's owner.
They do not consider how you feel.
Have you previously attempted to explain to someone why they were making you feel uncomfortable but they didn't seem to care? People who are unreliable continue. Your emotions are irrelevant. They continue to act in a way that you find unpleasant.
They violate the trust of others.
Most of us remember making a childhood promise to a close friend to keep something private, only for them to reveal it moments later. You may be sure that someone is untrustworthy if they are eager to divulge another person's secrets to you. And besides, by informing you, they are deliberately betraying that person's faith.People who are unreliable love the chance to divulge delicious details that they have been given in confidence. There is little chance of trust where there is no regard for secrecy.
They cause an odd feeling of anxiety or disquiet in you.
A gut instinct is frequently one of the most reliable indicators of someone's unreliability—sometimes literally. For example, your heart may be alerting you to a situation that feels unsafe or odd when you experience butterflies in the belly when you are with somebody.
With regards to his phone, he is picky.
It is clear that he has something to conceal if he frequently answers his phone away from you or in a different room when you are together in public. He may also be hiding something if he frequently changes the passcode on his phone so that you can't access it or if he always makes private telephone calls. These are unmistakable indicators of someone who is sly and unreliable.
They never manage to tell coherent stories.
They will always convey a new version of their story, which is never fully developed. Either a crucial piece of data is missing, the sequence is illogical, or something doesn't add up.
They pit individuals against one another.
Even though they are conscious that this small nugget of knowledge has the potential to sour an otherwise cordial relationship, they don't feel bad about exposing a secret or spreading some heated rumours. It doesn't matter what it is as long as it fulfils their purpose.
Embrace your instincts.
Believe your instinct instead, my grandmother used to say, because people who say "trust me" are usually lying or attempting to fool you. People that are unpredictable rely on you listening to their words rather than observing their body language.