How to deal with a narcissist boyfriend: Relationship Tips & advice

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It can be very exciting to start a relationship with somebody special. An emotionally satisfying encounter can also result from a healthy connection. The term "narcissist" is frequently used to characterize someone who lacks empathy and is self-centered. Mutual trust and love for one another, refraining from selfish actions, and promoting healthy interaction are traits of a healthy partnership.

Greek mythology serves as the foundation for this God complex. It wasn't until Narcissus saw his reflection that he realized he had never loved anyone. He sacrificed his life for this love. While his obsession with himself ultimately proved fatal for him, it has a much less severe effect on people who are identified as having this personality disorder.

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The following narcissistic characteristics are frequently displayed by those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder:

  • They Expect Abundant Admiration. A narcissist typically seeks adulation to fuel their dreams of prosperity, charm, and/or control.
  • Narcissists enjoy being the center of attention. They don't mind dominating conversations since they want to be viewed as more unique than others.
  • A narcissist will be excessively preoccupied with other people's opinions. They have a strong focus on their perception of themselves and a feeling of entitlement.
  • The word "confidence" is an understatement. It's typically healthy to have self-confidence in one's abilities to acquire new skills, complete tasks, develop connections, or make friends. However, for the narcissist, haughty and toxic attitudes start to have a bad impact on relationships, both emotionally and physically
  • A lack of empathy is evident. Those who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder have trouble putting themselves in other people's situations.

When engaging with a narcissist, interactions may start innocently enough but quickly turn into verbal abuse, berating, or attempts to exert control over you. These are not typical romantic circumstances.

Keep in mind that narcissists seek to mold the world to suit their demands and ambitions, and if you don't ever create a clear boundary they cannot cross, they will walk all over you. As such, make sure they are held accountable for their actions. It's not simple to figure out how to deal with a narcissist in a relationship, but these methods will help you manage narcissism in relationships and know when to walk away.

  • Become knowledgeable about narcissistic personality disorder.

Understanding the disease is one of the best methods to shield yourself from the emotional pain that comes with being in a relationship with a narcissistic personality. Understanding the signs and complexity of NPD will help you show your partner more compassion while also preventing you from taking whatever they say or do as "personal."

  • Never deceive yourself into believing that he cares for you genuinely.

Real affection for others is uncommon in most narcissists. Accepting this can be challenging, especially if you have genuine emotions for your boyfriend. However, the very first step in learning to live your life without narcissistic control or abuse is to acknowledge his emotional distance.

  • Be sympathetic, but also confront him.

Do sympathize with him when anything goes wrong and he is frustrated. Validate his emotions. But if he begins to act overly haughty or patronizing as a result, you must call him out on it. Instead of being rude, be courteous and firm in your approach. When dealing with difficult situations, it's crucial to maintain appropriate interpersonal limits.


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  • Establish precise boundaries

Narcissistic personalities are frequently highly self-absorbed. They might believe they have the right to snoop through your items, tell you how you should feel, or walk anywhere they please. They could offer you unsolicited advice and claim credit for your accomplishments. or force you to discuss personal matters in front of others. Additionally, they might not have a strong sense of limits, which causes them to frequently transgress them. They frequently don't even notice them. You must therefore be very specific about the boundaries that are essential to you.

  • Not Every Action Requires Justification.

Narcissistic people frequently like challenging your deepest beliefs and sentiments. He'll probably start acting innocent if you start to question what you believe to be right or wrong, which will irritate and confuse you even more. You don't have to justify your actions or behaviours to a narcissistic lover, and you certainly shouldn't.

  • Self-Care.

Start engaging in tasks designed to look after your mental, physical, or emotional well-being. Taking care of your own needs may seem unfair to a narcissistic partner, but it is essential to preserving relationships. Self-care energizes you so you can contribute to the partnership. You can practice self-care by getting enough rest, eating healthily, and attending weekly individual therapy sessions to work through persistent relationship problems and find assistance.



  • If you decide to go, get ready beforehand.

It can be quite challenging to end a relationship with someone who has NPD. Some NPD sufferers could find it difficult to let you go without attempting to draw you back in again. In other cases, they might also desire the final say. It's crucial to keep in mind your motives for leaving, whether someone is casting doubt on your judgment or making you feel bad about leaving. It could also be vital to plan and state your clear reasons for departing.

What Not to Do When Dealing With a Narcissist

Avoiding certain situations is advised since they may set off issues with narcissists.

  • Avoid arguing or confronting. Many believe it's best to avoid confrontation with narcissists. Even though it might be challenging to avoid them at all costs, it might be preferable to accommodate their need to be in charge.
  • Don't attempt to guide them. Narcissists enjoy being in charge and frequently worry about losing it. 
  • Don't count on them to agree with you on everything. Making narcissists see things your way might not work since they don't want to confess when they're wrong or that they're unlovable.
  • Don't anticipate in-depth, profound communication. Since narcissists lack empathy, genuine, heartfelt communication frequently falls on deaf ears and may even result in a furious outburst or a shut-down reaction.
  • Don't revisit old problems. Try not to force them to perceive a pattern of conduct that has existed for a long time. When you convey wishes or injured feelings, stay in the moment.
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When Should You Leave?

If the narcissist is making it harder for you to function normally and is upsetting you, you should seriously consider ending the relationship, moving out, or having them leave. Your mental health may be badly harmed by relationships with toxic individuals. Additionally, it's imperative to get help if the situation has turned abusive or dangerous in any other way.

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