Golden Rules To Maintain A Long Lasting Relationship

Submitted by poorva on Thu, 09/03/2020 - 20:08
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All relationships go through ups and downs and they all require efforts, commitment, and willingness to grow as an individual with your partner. People often fail to maintain a strong relationship and end up blaming either themselves or their partners for the result. While there are simple steps you can take to build a healthy and long lasting relationship. Here are some great of pieces of advice which will help you to rekindle the spark of romance in your relationship.

1. Acceptance and appreciation

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“In a true you-and-I relationship, we are present mindfully, non-intrusively, the way we are present with things in nature. We do not tell a birch tree it should be more like an elm. We face it with no agenda, only appreciation . . .”

The two important keys to a healthy and long-lasting relationship are acceptance and appreciation. Acceptance in a relationship means recognizing your partner for who he or she is and being attentive to the circumstances of the relationship. Appreciating your partner will make makes them feel good about what they do, it makes a difference to their lives. It will surely make them feel better about themselves, resulting in the strengthening of your relationship.

2. Realizing that all relationships have ups and downs

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Just exactly like no one can expect you to be happy all the time, you shouldn’t expect your relationship to be the most perfect one without any problems. When you’re ready to make a long-term commitment to someone, it’s also like you commit them to be ready and willing to face the highs, as well as the lows, together.

3. The Power of “we”

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Many researchers found that couples who use the word “we” while communicating are happier, calmer, and in general are more satisfied with their relationships than that couple whose conversations are more populated by the pronouns “you”, “me” and “I”.

It’s found that the word “we” is a game-changer. It makes us feel like we’re in a collaborative mindset and this collaborative mindset makes us more loving and generous, resulting in strengthening of our relationship.

4. Giving your partner a space

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In order to make a relationship healthy, one should have his/her own hobbies, interests, and social life. Work on establishing strong boundaries. And, spend some quality time with yourself. Exploring new hobbies and interests will help you to get in touch with your own identity.

In other words, space in a relationship is a way to be together and still be two different individuals, it is the space where one can himself/herself. As much as being together is important, so is to be with you, maintaining the individuality always aides to make a bond stronger. Relationships with too little space result in being suffocating, while too much space leads to losing connection with each other. So you should always have a good balance between the two.

5. Don’t be afraid of disagreement 

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Some couples talk things out personally and quietly, while others may raise their voices for what’s right and are not afraid to disagree. The key to a strong relationship is not to be fearful of getting into a conflict. You should firmly be strong and feel safe to express your opinions and things that bother you and you find right, without the fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without degradation, humiliation, or insisting on being right.

6. Communication

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This is something that everyone’s aware of. It is a fundamental part of a healthy relationship. Couples who don't communicate with each other result in not sharing a part of themselves with each other. They hold onto their feelings and thoughts behind which there may be two reasons, fear of rejection and hurting the other person through what they say. When you build and experience a positive emotional connection with your partner, you feel safe and content. When people stop communicating effectively, they stop relating to each other, and in turn, start to disconnect with each other.  

7. Talk about your needs and expectations

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Undoubtedly, it’s not always easy to express what you need. Strangely, many of us don’t spend enough time analyzing what our needs and expectations are in a relationship. And even if you’re not able to know what your needs are, talking about it with your partner can make you vulnerable, embarrassed, or even ashamed. But this is where the importance of communication plays an important role, look at this from your partner’s point of view. Providing comfort and comprehending someone you love is a need and pleasure, not a burden or something to be afraid of

If you’ve known each other for some time, it’s easy for you to assume that your partner is aware of what you are thinking and what your expectations are. However, your partner is not a mind-reader. Your partner may sense something, but it is not easy to comprehend what exactly it is. So instead of letting misunderstanding or anger grow, get in the habit of letting them know exactly what you need.

8. Become a good listener

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While emphasis in a relationship is put on communicating, it’s so important for an individual to learn to listen in a way that makes their partner feel valued and understood, you can build and maintain a deeper, stronger connection between you both. There’s a huge difference between listening in an effective way and simply hearing. When you carefully listen and you’re engaged with what’s being said, you’re able to be aware of what’s in your partner’s voice that describes how they’re really feeling and also the emotions they’re trying to express. Becoming a good listener doesn’t mean you have to agree with whatever your partner is saying or influencing your mind. But it will help you to find similar points of view that aids to resolve conflict.

Some quick short tips to simply maintain the excitement in your relationship :

 

1. Talk About Your Day With Each Other

Talking to your partner about little things is one of the simplest ways to maintain a healthy relationship. Whether you had a good day or a bad day, talk about everything with your partner and let them know whatever you’re up to. This will keep you both connected to each other.

2. Compliments

 Complimenting is a good way if you want things to work out for the long-term. When you compliment your partner it shows that you really appreciate them for who they are as a whole. 

 3. Eat together.

 No matter how busy you are, make sure that you find out some time to spend with each other and eat together. “A couple that eats together stays together”

4. Cook for your partner

Cook often for your partner to make him/her enjoy food that’s full of love and passion.

5. Leave sweet notes

Leaving short and sweet notes will be an old school romantic way to express love. Leaving sweet notes will help you maintain the excitement and fun in the relationship. 

6. Say sorry

Learn to say sorry when you make a mistake. While it’s hard to set aside your ego, learn to say such words to avoid unnecessary conflicts. 

7. Support each other’s dreams

When you support each other’s dreams, you will be aware of how you would be as lifelong partners in turn resulting in making your relationship becomes stronger.

8. Respect your differences

 It’s quite natural for the two people in a relationship, having different personalities and interests, but it’s important for you to respect each other’s differences. Opposites Attract! Remember? 

9. Put yourself into your partner’s shoe

 Sometimes being extremely particular about your ego, you tend to forget the importance of knowing your partner’s point of view. In order for you to easily understand your partner’s choices and opinions, try to put yourself into your partner’s shoes and understand things more effectively. 

10. Cook together

While going on romantic dates to a fancy restaurant is important, you should also often cook together at home and make some good memories together. Doing such things together will surely help to bring some excitement in your relationship. 

11. Surprise your partner

Never forget to make efforts to surprise your partner every once in a while even by the littlest of things.